What We Get or What We Give

At the end of May I had the privilege of “officiating” or performing my first wedding ceremony. Many of you know or would recognize Jayden since she is the student receptionist that sits at the desk by the main entrance in the afternoons. Katy and I have grown to love Corey and Jayden and were thankful to be part of their wedding. It was a fun wedding, and not just because I did it, but I won’t lie I was a nervous wreck. I told Katy the night before, this wedding can’t happen if 1 of 3 people doesn’t show up: Jayden, Corey, and Me! I was sweating bullets, but thankfully we made it through without any trouble.

In the months leading up to their wedding, Katy and I spent several evenings with them talking through pre-marital counseling. One of the nuggets I shared with them was marriage is more about what you give than what you get. The more and more I reflected on this statement I realized it’s not only true for marriages but for all relationships. It was a gut check for me as I often fall into the trap of thinking what’s in it for me, what will I gain, or what I will get? We know as followers of Christ that’s not the example we see in Jesus’s life. In Philippians 2:3-5 Paul wrote: 


“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility consider others as more important than yourselves. Everyone should look out not only for his own interests, but                 also for the interests of others. Adopt the same attitude as that of Christ Jesus.” 


What was Jesus’s attitude? His attitude was to love and serve others even when it cost Him everything. He willingly went to the cross to die in our place to cover our sins.  Life is more about what we give than what we get! Are you known more for what you give or what you receive? I want to leave you with this question: “who are those people in your life that you can love through serving them?”

Putting others before yourself is a daily, life-long struggle, but it’s a life worth living! 

Serving others with you,


 What we Get or What We Give